When Is It Time For Divorce?
There is no simple solution. Life can be that complex and difficult. Our partners don’t always react to life’s ups and downs the way we would like or believe they should. Communication breakdowns can erode trust between you two. You may require the assistance of a specialist to help you talk things through and emerge stronger. At times, the effort simply doesn’t appear worth it — the issues you’re dealing with as a couple are too large to set aside preconceptions or find a compromise. Then it’s time to step back and start figuring out how to detangle your lives.
Divorcing or ending a marriage is an indescribably difficult and highly personal decision that you must make for yourself. However, experts believe there are warning signs that your relationship may be beyond saving. Here are a few of the factors to consider if you’ve recently been wondering, “When is it time to get a divorce?”
Marriage isn’t always a fairytale ending
When you got married, you were the loveliest woman on earth. You looked like a dream and your future is to live happily ever after with your husband. But no matter how hard you both try to save it, it just didn’t work out. So you went your separate ways and you’re left alone to cope with divorce aftermath.
Experts’ Predictions for When It’s Time to Divorce
While the loss of intimacy in a marriage isn’t always a deal breaker (some people are less dependent on intimacy than others), it does appear to be a show stopper for many. According to a 2020 study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, nearly 50% of couples polled cited a lack of intimacy as a rationale for their divorce. Important to note: Emotional intimacy is equally important as sexual intimacy, if not more so.
If you do not feel close in your relationship or dislike your partner’s presence, your mind and body will start giving you some clues”
- Ignore that your wife is in the room
- Avoid areas where your souse is.
- When you’re together, you may experience fear or discomfort.
- Communication with your husband is something you fear (or dread).
If you’re in a marriage rut, it’s best to start by covering all the bases. If you still love your spouse, there are many ways to repair your marriage and climb out of that hole. You don’t want to look back and regret a hasty, emotional divorce.
Figure out what’s best for you and for him
And there you find yourself still thinking about him. You can count so many reasons why you can never be together anymore. If you ask your well-meaning friends and families about it, they would often tell you that you’re better off without him. They could be right and they only want what’s best for you.
When divorce becomes the only solution
It is wishful thinking to consider divorce in order to get the desired result from your spouse. You may believe that by divorcing them, they will change their ways, never mistreat you again, and realize that you are the love of their life and that they cannot survive without you.
So if you think that getting back together would only bring you both more pain and suffering, would only cause more broken dreams and promises, then let it go, accept its end and give yourselves time to heal and move on. Sometimes, the most painful decisions are truly the best ones to make. Help yourself cope with divorce. Be strong, take courage and have faith that life goes on and everything will turn out right for you in the end.
Look into the bright side of life
Surround yourself with good friends. Keep your mind occupied with new hobbies or pursue a dream you have set aside during your married life. Learn to love yourself all over again, forgive yourself and your ex-husband. And you must be prepared to also accept the fact that someday you and your ex-husband will meet someone new and find happiness again.