Reasons Why Men Leave
Today’s women can find it difficult sometimes to keep their marriages alive and happy. Many women think about why men leave their wives and what they can do to make sure it doesn’t happen to them.
The fact of the matter is that our society has made it very hard for men and women to live in long term loving relationships. Why? Because the rules our society has adopted are based on incorrect data.
The Misconceptions About Men
One of the most obvious misconceptions that are pervasive throughout our society is the concept that men really only want sex and/or have a much greater sex drive than women. The fact is that men and women have similar sex drives but men have been encouraged, by society, to meet their needs while women have been discouraged from having sex until they are married.
This leads to many misunderstandings between men and women and how they approach their relationships. It might mean a man will be more tempted to cheat on his wife because after all, it’s in his nature. And it could mean that a women uses sex with the hopes of keeping her husband in love with her so he will stay in the marriage.
If we really got to the bottom of things though we would understand that men and women want basically the same things in a relationship. Both want to feel loved, respected, and desired by their partners. When you break it down like that it doesn’t really seem all that hard, does it?
Meet Your Husband’s Needs
If you want to keep your marriage strong try to meet your husbands needs – all of them, not just sexually. A word of caution here though. Because of the way our society has told us to behave women have the tendency to think that they have to meet their husbands needs even if that means ignoring their own. No! All that will do is make you resentful and bitter and that won’t keep a marriage intact.
Intimacy is the silent cement that often supports and holds a stronger connection together in marriage. After 30 or more years of marriage, a man may declare that he wants a divorce after having already emotionally checked out of the marriage. This helps explain a shared experience for many women when their husband suddenly decided to announce he wants a divorce, ostensibly out of nowhere.
Keep Your Marriage Happy, Healthy, Stable
While it’s important to try to meet your husbands needs it can’t be done to the detriment of your own. Don’t put your wants and needs on hold to satisfy your husband, you’ll be unhappy, he’ll be unhappy (and bored) and the marriage won’t last. For a marriage to thrive both parties need to be happy, healthy, stable, and have their needs being met on a regular basis.
So for any women who wants to know why men leave their wives it’s usually because his needs aren’t being met, and I don’t just mean his sexual needs. I mean on some level he doesn’t feel like you love, desire, or respect him and he will try to find someone who will.
Is divorce after 30 years common?
While most divorces occur during the first four years of marriage, getting divorced later in life is becoming more common.
According to a 2017 Pew Research Center study, divorce among people over the age of 50 has more than doubled since 1990. Meanwhile, the divorce rate for people over the age of 65 has tripled since 1990, painting an even bleaker picture.
According to latest research, divorce after the age of 50 can be far more damaging to your financial and emotional well-being than divorce while you’re younger.
Leaving for Another Woman
Some do so because they are bored, lonely, or unhappy in their current relationship. Some men cheat in order to satisfy unfulfilled sexual desires. Others may simply cheat because an opportunity presents itself and they decide to take advantage of it.
Not all infidelity is physical, and an emotional affair can be just as damaging.
If you discover your husband has feelings for another woman, it may be because both of you have stopped being purposeful about your marriage. One of the most common reasons for leaving a wife for another woman is when she is too judgmental and demanding. As a result, the man gets the impression that she is attempting to change him.
It can be the precursor tp the end of a marriage when a man decides to leave his wife for another woman. This implies that the man is intimate with another woman and is currently forming an emotional attachment to her. At this point, you’re probably halfway to divorce.
What stops a man from leaving his wife?
The simple fact is that some husbands return, whereas others do not. It all depends on how the husband perceives his previous relationship with the current one. It is not common for a man to leave his marriage for an affair partner. Not all men cheat on their wives, and even those who do cheat return to their wives. There would be no reason to leave permanently if both parties are committed to the marriage. A relationship coach can be very helpful if you want specific advice on your situation.