It’s an ongoing scenario for many women in the United States. After finally escaping an emotionally and physically abusive relationship and being granted a divorce, you can’t shut your ex-spouse out of your life because of the children you had together. Child visitation is court-ordered and you can’t refuse without repercussions. Many states and programs are beginning to realize the severity of these situations and have begun setting up supervised visitation sites.
Reasons for Supervised Visitation
The supervised visitation program is necessary with all the documented cases of spousal and child abuse. Where domestic violence or other abuse is present, supervised visitation can reduce trauma to the child or former spouse. Supervised visitation allows the abusive parent to establish a more structured relationship with the child or children, yet reduce any stress normally caused by the situation. Most states already have free programs in place. However, most supervised visitation programs are not accessible except through a court order.
Times are arranged for the supervised visitation in compliance with the court order. Arrival times are usually staggered so both parents and the children do not arrive at the same time. When the non-custodial parent arrives for supervised visitation, they are placed in a room with a counselor. When settled, supervised visitation with the child or children can begin. The parent is allowed to visit, play, and socialize much like they would in an unsupervised setting for whatever the predetermined amount of time. The counselor is in place to watch and listen for threats, fighting words, or behavior that will cause problems. If any problems arise, the counselor has the power to end the visit. This type of staff intervention will ensure that the supervised visitation with the non-custodial parent will be a safe and secure visit for the child. Some programs charge a fee for the exchange that may be set by the agency that provides the supervised visitation. You can contact the agency in your area for more specific details.
Supervised Visitation Programs
Sometimes supervised visitation programs can be very traumatic to a custodial parent. Many times this program will not be successful because of the custodial parent’s lack of participation or negative feelings about the success of the supervised visitation program. Despite the many effects that can result from abuse, the main objective is to restore stability and family unity. Children, in most cases, benefit from the experiences and advice from both parents. Supervised visitation programs are ordered just for this reason. Find support to help you deal with the issues of domestic violence. You don’t have to deal with it alone. Utilize supervised visitations and get help from your family and friends, and get professional advice.
By helping the child or children understand the importance of both parents’ input, supervised visitation can work. However, despite all the advantages some might still not participate. Since programs are usually court-ordered, the custodial parent might be held accountable for their lack of participation. This could subject that parent to court sanction, contempt, or in some extreme cases more liberal visitation.
If given a chance, supervised visitation can work. Don’t subject yourself to court action for lack of participation. Despite all the emotional issues that occurred during your marriage or relationship, helping to make this work for your child or children it can only restore and promote a healthy relationship with the non-custodial parent in a safe environment. Consult with an attorney, your local court, or social services about putting a supervised or restricted visitation program in place for you and your child.